If you want to go far, go together. Work Rules! This book was life changing for me. I'd already read Gifts of Imperfection, and have been struggling with having healthy boundaries with a psychologically unhealthy parent.
This book did an amazing job of helping me understand the difference between sharing vulnerability in ways that lead to connection and oversharing in ways intended to manipulate an audience - and why that oversharing has always led to disconnection. For the men out there - I'd recommend starting with this book rather than gifts of imperfection as Brown broadens her research to include men here.
And I really liked the way this book works through so many interesting topics and challenging scenarios. One of my favorite parts is on professing love vs practicing love below. It made me appreciate that when someone tells me they love me, then treats me badly, that it isn't really love at all. Last week I was sitting outside a coffee shop reading a book on my kindle when a youngish guy walked by carrying a coffee and a computer, looking for a place to sit.
Since all of the tables were occupied and he was looking a bit displaced, I offered him a seat at my table. Relieved, he sat down and expressed his gratitude. I promptly went back to my reading but I could feel his eyes boring into me as I anticipated the dreaded question. Now I know this is neither a profound nor earth-shattering inquiry but there were two problems at hand here.
One, I'm terrible at summarizing books. Just awful. Which you're about to discover. There's just something about the vast amount of information that I'm pressured to wrap into one or two sentences that completely overwhelms and paralyzes me.
And two, I was reading a book about shame and vulnerability. Which ironically, I was ashamed to admit for fear of being vulnerable. Clearly, I had just started reading the book. Part of me was tempted to lie to youngish guy by replying, "oh, it's just some silly novel. Besides, as I'm sure it's obvious--I could use the practice. It's about shame and vulnerability and how shame can truly only dissipate by allowing yourself to be vulnerable", I quickly blurted.